Co-Parenting = Communication – Cooperation – Compromise – Consistency
When a separation or divorce occurs ALL members of the family are going through challenging times. The benefit of counseling offers the children and/or parents an external outlet of support. Most importantly it helps to understand how to co-parent in a healthy, respectful, and child first manner. Co-Parenting with someone you may have anger towards is going to come out in your interactions with the children around that parent. In counseling we encourage parents to discuss the needs of their children together and to come up with ways to make this process easier on them. There are significant emotions and feelings that occur when parents decide to separate. The most important decision you can make as a parent is to amicably co-parent your children together. By developing a parenting plan together you are modeling for your children that you can put your differences aside for their benefit. Your children benefit from seeing their parents communicate in a peaceful manner vs. observing hostility being modeled between the two most important people in their lives. Coparenting is agreeing to collaborate with one another, it is not a competition about who gets to spend more time with the kids. If you are able to communicate and compromise, your children can thrive in their new environments with love and stability in both homes. The only people that lose in a hostile separation or divorce are the children. The best gift parents can give their children is to see that their parents can communicate without anger and resentment. It is important to be mindful that you are not placing children in the middle of your own conflict.
“The sign of great parenting is not a child’s behavior. The sign of truly great parenting is the parent’s behavior” – Andy Smithson
Coparent Counseling helps provide parents the opportunity to learn how to parent through cooperation, communication, compromise, and consistency. Coparent sessions can be scheduled independently by contacting a licensed counselor or the court may order for sessions to occur. After a separation or divorce parents will need to work together to develop a parenting plan, coordinate appointments, and activities for their children, and to develop ways to communicate amicably around their children. Our goal of coparenting is to assist your family with developing ideas and solutions independently with the counselor vs. litigating in a courtroom. Problems that existed with communication in the relationship may carry over after the relationship ends. Coparenting aims to reduce stress and improve family functioning for the benefit of the children. Schedule your appointment today by calling 386.449.8600.